My older son is constantly refusing to do any work related to school, being very new to the school atmosphere and knowing that his younger brother does not go to school, he refuses to listen to anything we tell him.The following june session he is going to go to Kindergarten, things are not going to get easy there for him nor me as a parent.
He needs to begin his writing skills and knowing the child that he is - he will do stuff in a new atmosphere only when he has done it before.
To begin his writing practice, i tried to make it fun by saying that the number's be is going to write will be happy only when he completes them well. With my help of course, he decided to make a start. After about a minute, he was " NO, NO MORE"
My reaction to this was " Ice Cream said he is waiting for you, he wants you to eat him"
There was a twinkle in his eyes. He loves ice creams and he does not get them often. He had to grab this opportunity and wanted it immediately.
At this point, I told him " Come on lets make all the numbers happy and finish writing them, the ice cream is waiting for you to finish your writing, else he will not get a ticket for you to eat him". For my luck, it worked.
He did complete his work happily and with lost of fun we sand the " WE DID IT" Song from Dora the Explorer and had the ice cream.
Now the next day, it was writing time again, he asked if the ice cream was waiting.
HMMMM, I though, Well, its over and gone, but he bought that and wrote with the same enthusiasm, but wanted some treat.
So I told him I would begin a piggy bank where you can start collecting money for every good thing you do and when you reach Rs. 50 you can buy yourself something.
Now the piggy bank is not yet bought, but well, it worked that night.
By and large rewards do not have a general harmful influence on motivation to perform a task. The self generated controversy surrounding the supposed harmful influence of rewards is rather unfortunate as some parents have been misled to avoid praising children because they think this might somehow be harmful.Praise is a particularly powerful positive reinforcer that helps children learn.My older son, loves praises these days, when we say we did it during his writing time and dance around wiggling our hands, he loves that I am acknolegeding the great work of writing he did, which he resisted for such a long long time.
He used to resist, because I used to insist, with no rewards. All it did was make him retreat back to negative behavior.
I would love you to share your thoughts on this regard. We could have different ideas where positive reinforcement work.
How about down sides? Any quotes?