Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Questions? Why's?

R and I ask questions all the time and question things all the time as well. Well now ours are sensible ones (mostly!!).

What about a 4.5 yr old whose questions are endless, i mean literally. One after another, at one point I am forced to tell him don't be senseless. And there is this brother of his who has followed him early enough since he was 2.5 yrs, now 3 yrs to ask questions as well. They go louder over each other to ask questions and eventually start screaming so their voices are heard.

Right now, the state I am, I seem to not be able to even think and have a mind of my own. I cant think, I cant talk nor am I able to question. Why? I'll tell you, where is the MY SPACE and TIME. There you go, I have this blog where I am able to vent out and you kind folks listen, Thank You

This is blogging time, I get to write - think, but really I don't even get to talk with DH!! Phewww.. Kids please I am not asking you to stop asking, but slow it down please.

Sunday, February 08, 2009

Over Active Brothers

Ever heard of a case where two brother - little boys aged 4.5yrs and 3yrs go crazy just screaming lunatically and running and falling and jumping over each other. My boys do, in places where I would not like them to do.

Over this weekend to an electronic shop to look for a home theatre, while we were listening to music, they almost turned the place into a dance floor for hooligans. A nice lounge chair was turned into a dirty shoe marked chair. R and I were just tied in constantly taking turns to stop them for behaving like this and distracting them to watch some TV, which seems so non sensical.

Then we were off to a store to look for window blinds. Wow, they were way to excited to run between the drapes and crevices of the shop and not to mention to make sure they leave their marks on the carpets as well!!!!!

How much more can a more organized mom get in trying to use positive reinforcement to discipline the child. My brother truely suggests wacking them and getting them straights. But really, I have gone to the extent of loosing my sanity in screaming and wacking them with ofcourse no respite!!!

Knowing now that, no screaming and wacking can work, Again the one thing that has successed is the bad old GEMS, give them 1 piece and that does not stop them these days either.

Even ONE GEM, can make their behaviour full of energy and creativity and hooliganism :). Like sucking on the gem noticing that its color changes to white then brown. With each color change, they scream and have fun.

Inside a restaurant, when mom and dad are talking, in a meeting and when I am on the phone. Unbelievable, that they find that its fun for them to behave when like this to get my attention.

I am trying to understand, still, am I supposed to enjoy and cherish such behaviour as well!! They are simply having fun, but to the thrid person, its destroying and creating havoc to their property! What am I suppoed to do, I need help.

- A Desparate MOM

Friday, February 06, 2009

A long year and life is still the same...

Jane's blog finally inspired me to start writing again. There has been so much going on this past year that, I had forgotten to enjpy myself and enjoy with the kids as well. Post 2008 Summer, I got busy making the kids used to school, then we bought a place, then hunting for carpenters and mind was stuck with thoughts of how to furnish this new home. All this in the midst of managing home, new home, cooking, and kids. And finally to add to this list husband and my Archana's Kitchen Blog

What happened to the kids, they got fussy, I lost my sanity towards them and the house was close to chaos. Until the little hero P started school in October, thats when I got a breather.

To add, I had 2 boys who are act as if they have not seen eachother for many years. This happens when they return back from their respective schools. The whole jouney in the car is screaming of happiness or in tears ripping eachother apart.

Heard of kids not wanting to come back home. Yes, my younger one, P. He is just that sort, get into the basement to park the car, there he goes, rolling on the ground, tantrums and tantrums. My BP would rise, but oh well. Ihad to give into the treat system again.

"P You some some gems?" Thats it, crying was vanished and back into full energy jumping and getting into home, until he gets his pair of gems. Phewwww... end of one battle, then wash hands, change clothes etc, feed them lunch and then NAP time.

My days seem to have no emotions stuck to them. I try hard, after their nap, i get rejeuvenated to be nice and loving to them. But P always ends up making me loose my sanity. SCREAM had become my voice.

Want to know what this 2.5 year old kids P is capable of, MAKING U LOSE YOUR SANITY. Yes. like, running like super sonic and not looking that there is a sharp corner or bang into the wall. Jump from BUNK bed and fall head down, ride super fast on a slope and come back reverse and get cut in the head but falling on a concrete slab. But do you think that this has made any change in his behavior NO way.

As Jane says, let them be. Which has been my resolution for this new year 2009, to let P be himself, do what he wants and if he throws a tantrum, try to give in to some things and others ignore.

Like for instance, we have moved to our new home, where the kids cycles 2 rounds around the building which is about 1.5 kms. Now they cycle super duper fast, event the 2.5 yr old kid.
I was all screaming, wanting p slow down at corners, stop when cars come. This kid is fearless. 2 days hence, i meditated on what i should do, my BP was rising, they wanted to cycle, i wanted my walk with them. Guess what i did, ok,let the fearless kid be fearless, I will run ahead of them... there you go, and thats what I am doing now.

Looks like life is giving me a training to be one step ahead of my children right now, so 20 ysr down the line I can actually be at par with them - So I Hope :).

At the end of the day, when the kids are asleep, i am glad i get my emotions back for them. I am really striving hard to achieve it in their play time. I ts time let go.